I saw this on Facebook, and it just seemed to fit tonight!
Sunday, January 26, 2014
There are always things that we want to change in our lives.
Here we are, almost at the end of January already! Unbelievable! It's been a long and WAY TO BUSY month for me so far. I put in 60 hours at work last week. It's too much. Not entirely my fault, trying to catch up work that someone else should have done. But I need a new plan. I have part of it, and I'll start using it on Monday. We'll see how well that works.
I also need a new plan for my health. I did so well last year. I lost over 35 pounds from November 2012 to march of 2013, and slowly, I've gained back 10 of those pounds!!!! UNACCEPTABLE!!! As I've said before I want to lose weight for my health. not to be skinny or sexy or please anyone except my self. If those other things happen as a result of my getting healthy, that's ok of course. So, I'm not morbidly obese or anything like that, but I'm uncomfortably over weight, by about 60 pounds. For some that wouldn't seem like much. and some people say I don't look that much overweight. But I can feel it and I don't like it. There are always things that we want to change in our lives. My weight is only one of the things I want to change. But it's major for me.
Do I expect it to happen overnight? of course not. I didn't gain it overnight, why would or should I lose it overnight? It's going to take some effort, but I'm determined to get down to at least 130 pounds, AND get in shape! You know, build some muscles! build some cardio strength! As I said, this is not just about losing weight to get skinny or sexy. I WANT TO BE HEALTHY!! I'm tired of not being healthy.
NO, this is not a new years resolution. If you have read some of my other posts you know I DON'T do new years resolutions. But, I do set goals and of course with setting goals comes making plans to meet those goals.
So, what are my plans? Well, to start with, to eat healthier of course. I don't eat a lot of junk food most of the time, but due to lack of planning over the last month or two, (& some lack of will power, I confess), I have found myself stopping at mcd's and sonic at least once a week, and sometimes stopping here or there for hot chocolate, and an occasional hot fudge, caramel sunday.
After a talk with YAHUAH, with my friend Gloria and with myself, I think I know why. Sad to say but I think I was turning to sweets again because of frustration, loneliness, anxiety, and yes, even perhaps some fear. All things I need to deal with and "fix". That's going to take a little work. But I'll get there.
So, why am I sharing this with all of you? Because, unless I miss my guess, every single one of you reading this (and I know you are out there, even if you don't comment, which I wish you would), has something in your life that you want to improve. Maybe it's family related, finances, health, career, but there is something. How do I know? Because none of us is perfect. And if none of us is perfect then we all have something to work on. Maybe it's something really serious, maybe it's just something you want to do better, or maybe it's something new you want to learn to do. But we all have something.
That's why I'm sharing this. To encourage myself and encourage YOU!! To let you know, you are not alone!! So pick something you want to work on, and find at least one thing you can do to start achieving that goal.
What am I going to do to get 60 pounds lighter and get healthy and stronger again? Well, for one thing, starting right now, today. I'm going to spend at least 10 minutes every day, walking in place, and every day I'm going to add 2 minutes. I have an app on my phone that will help me to start adding push ups & sit ups gradually, every day. I'm going to start getting more sleep and drinking more water. And I am going to start planning my menu's again. It's hard. I need to take something healthy with me to work each day, but I don't have time to eat a whole meal. I don't want to use the microwave, (I'm trying to not use it so much, I personally don't think it is healthy for us). So, I have to start planning menu's so I can eat healthier. That seems like a lot to do. But it's really not. And it's all 'doable'.
But, I've left out the most important part. Prayer & time with YAHUAH. at the start and end of every day. This part is NOT NEGOTIABLE!! The rest I will try my very best to do, but I know there might be some days when I fail at the walking, the sleep, the water, the eating. But the prayer and the time with YAHUAH, is NOT NEGOTIABLE!! 2 Scriptures come to mind.
Ne emyah 8:10 (from the Scriptures) Then he said to them, "go, eat the fat, drink the sweet, and send portions to those for whom none is prepared. For this day is set-apart to our Elohim. Do not be sad for the Joy of YAHUAH is your strength."
(Nehemiah if you are reading kjv or niv, etc)
Isaiah 40: 28-31 (from the Scriptures) "Did you not know? Have you not heard? The everlasting Elohim, YAHUAH, the Creator of the ends of the earth, neither faints nor is weary. His understanding is unsearchable. He gives power to the faint, and to those who have no might He increases strength. Even youths shall faint and be weary, and young men stumble and fall, but those who wait on YAHUAH renew their strength, they raise up the wing like eagles, they run and are not weary, they walk and do not faint."
Well that's it for me now. If you find it possible, I'd love to hear from some of you, all of you, any of you, what your goal(s) and plans are? And how well you do? It would be encouraging to me. But if not, then I hope you will allow me to continue to encourage you.
At any rate, I pray a BLESSED AND PEACEFUL week for all of you!
I also need a new plan for my health. I did so well last year. I lost over 35 pounds from November 2012 to march of 2013, and slowly, I've gained back 10 of those pounds!!!! UNACCEPTABLE!!! As I've said before I want to lose weight for my health. not to be skinny or sexy or please anyone except my self. If those other things happen as a result of my getting healthy, that's ok of course. So, I'm not morbidly obese or anything like that, but I'm uncomfortably over weight, by about 60 pounds. For some that wouldn't seem like much. and some people say I don't look that much overweight. But I can feel it and I don't like it. There are always things that we want to change in our lives. My weight is only one of the things I want to change. But it's major for me.
Do I expect it to happen overnight? of course not. I didn't gain it overnight, why would or should I lose it overnight? It's going to take some effort, but I'm determined to get down to at least 130 pounds, AND get in shape! You know, build some muscles! build some cardio strength! As I said, this is not just about losing weight to get skinny or sexy. I WANT TO BE HEALTHY!! I'm tired of not being healthy.
NO, this is not a new years resolution. If you have read some of my other posts you know I DON'T do new years resolutions. But, I do set goals and of course with setting goals comes making plans to meet those goals.
So, what are my plans? Well, to start with, to eat healthier of course. I don't eat a lot of junk food most of the time, but due to lack of planning over the last month or two, (& some lack of will power, I confess), I have found myself stopping at mcd's and sonic at least once a week, and sometimes stopping here or there for hot chocolate, and an occasional hot fudge, caramel sunday.
After a talk with YAHUAH, with my friend Gloria and with myself, I think I know why. Sad to say but I think I was turning to sweets again because of frustration, loneliness, anxiety, and yes, even perhaps some fear. All things I need to deal with and "fix". That's going to take a little work. But I'll get there.
So, why am I sharing this with all of you? Because, unless I miss my guess, every single one of you reading this (and I know you are out there, even if you don't comment, which I wish you would), has something in your life that you want to improve. Maybe it's family related, finances, health, career, but there is something. How do I know? Because none of us is perfect. And if none of us is perfect then we all have something to work on. Maybe it's something really serious, maybe it's just something you want to do better, or maybe it's something new you want to learn to do. But we all have something.
That's why I'm sharing this. To encourage myself and encourage YOU!! To let you know, you are not alone!! So pick something you want to work on, and find at least one thing you can do to start achieving that goal.
What am I going to do to get 60 pounds lighter and get healthy and stronger again? Well, for one thing, starting right now, today. I'm going to spend at least 10 minutes every day, walking in place, and every day I'm going to add 2 minutes. I have an app on my phone that will help me to start adding push ups & sit ups gradually, every day. I'm going to start getting more sleep and drinking more water. And I am going to start planning my menu's again. It's hard. I need to take something healthy with me to work each day, but I don't have time to eat a whole meal. I don't want to use the microwave, (I'm trying to not use it so much, I personally don't think it is healthy for us). So, I have to start planning menu's so I can eat healthier. That seems like a lot to do. But it's really not. And it's all 'doable'.
But, I've left out the most important part. Prayer & time with YAHUAH. at the start and end of every day. This part is NOT NEGOTIABLE!! The rest I will try my very best to do, but I know there might be some days when I fail at the walking, the sleep, the water, the eating. But the prayer and the time with YAHUAH, is NOT NEGOTIABLE!! 2 Scriptures come to mind.
Ne emyah 8:10 (from the Scriptures) Then he said to them, "go, eat the fat, drink the sweet, and send portions to those for whom none is prepared. For this day is set-apart to our Elohim. Do not be sad for the Joy of YAHUAH is your strength."
(Nehemiah if you are reading kjv or niv, etc)
Isaiah 40: 28-31 (from the Scriptures) "Did you not know? Have you not heard? The everlasting Elohim, YAHUAH, the Creator of the ends of the earth, neither faints nor is weary. His understanding is unsearchable. He gives power to the faint, and to those who have no might He increases strength. Even youths shall faint and be weary, and young men stumble and fall, but those who wait on YAHUAH renew their strength, they raise up the wing like eagles, they run and are not weary, they walk and do not faint."
Well that's it for me now. If you find it possible, I'd love to hear from some of you, all of you, any of you, what your goal(s) and plans are? And how well you do? It would be encouraging to me. But if not, then I hope you will allow me to continue to encourage you.
At any rate, I pray a BLESSED AND PEACEFUL week for all of you!
Sunday, January 19, 2014
it's what filled up my heart, my spirit just now
It's my turn again next Wednesday. My turn to lead discussion again. I have so much on my heart. One thing Yahuah is impressing upon me is FAMILY FAMILY FAMILY.
Don't we all know that? Family is so important to us! My children, my grandchildren mean the world to me, more than the world! my sister(s), though one doesn't claim her family any more, my parents, cousins, nieces, nephew, even a half brother who I hardly know.......... but it's not JUST my biological family He's talking about. I have a spiritual family too. 'Sisters' who are near and dear to my heart, 'Brothers' who make me laugh and feel protected.
Yes, family is so very important. But we have another family too.
Yahuah. How do I explain, CAN I explain the feeling of family when I think of how much He loves me? As much as I love my children and grandchildren, He loves me and them, so much more than that!!!!!
How do I know that? He sent His only son to redeem me from my sinful nature. Please don't take offense, but as much as I care about other people, I would NEVER offer up my son or daughters, gransons or grandaughters for any of you. I couldn't!!!!!!! I can't even imagine it.
But He did just that! I can't begin to say thank You enough for what He has done for me.
I don't know if this is what I'll talk about on Wednesday, but it's what filled up my heart, my spirit just now and I needed to share!
Don't we all know that? Family is so important to us! My children, my grandchildren mean the world to me, more than the world! my sister(s), though one doesn't claim her family any more, my parents, cousins, nieces, nephew, even a half brother who I hardly know.......... but it's not JUST my biological family He's talking about. I have a spiritual family too. 'Sisters' who are near and dear to my heart, 'Brothers' who make me laugh and feel protected.
Yes, family is so very important. But we have another family too.
Yahuah. How do I explain, CAN I explain the feeling of family when I think of how much He loves me? As much as I love my children and grandchildren, He loves me and them, so much more than that!!!!!
How do I know that? He sent His only son to redeem me from my sinful nature. Please don't take offense, but as much as I care about other people, I would NEVER offer up my son or daughters, gransons or grandaughters for any of you. I couldn't!!!!!!! I can't even imagine it.
But He did just that! I can't begin to say thank You enough for what He has done for me.
I don't know if this is what I'll talk about on Wednesday, but it's what filled up my heart, my spirit just now and I needed to share!
Thursday, January 16, 2014
you can't wait to find out what happens next. Yes, I think that's it.
Just a quick line or two, going to sleep early tonight. It's funny, even my little dog seems aware I'm trying to get to sleep early, (so I can go to work early....). It seems i have something on my heart, but I'm not sure what. It's not worry or fear. It's not anxiety or ...... I'm not certain what it is. It's a calmness, it's a sense of anticipation, it's a hopefullness. It's like, well, honestly, I don't know what it's like actually. I think the closest I can come is, it's kind of like when you find a really good book and you're about 3 or 4 chapters in. It's such a good book, you can't put it down, you can't wait to find out what happens next. Yes, I think that's it. I'm so in love with the Scriptures of YAHUAH, what His Word, His presence is doing in my life, the Promises He has for each of us. I'm so in love with YAHUAH, with the relationship we have and how He draws me closer to Him each day.
That's it. and with that thought, I think I'll say goodnight & BLESSINGS to all!
That's it. and with that thought, I think I'll say goodnight & BLESSINGS to all!
Sunday, January 12, 2014
10 MINUTES
You know, I've been thinking all weekend, what do I have to write about? I've been so busy this week. Besides my regular hours, on Thursday & Friday I put in an extra 5 hours, both days. The most sleep I got all week was 6.5 hours Wednesday night. Then Friday night, 7 hours, the rest of the week ranged between 5 and 6 hours a night. Not healthy!
I had a lot of fun on Saturday watching 2 of my 8 wonderful grandchildren play basketball in a tournament (their teams both won each of their 2 games, I missed my grandson's first game, but I saw the other 3 games). I saw a lot of friends from the little town where I used to live, that I haven't seen for a long time. Then I got to spend a few more hours with my son & his family at their house. We weren't doing anything special, just visiting, and it was so nice.
I wish all my kids & grandkids lived closer!
Today I slept in and after I finally made it out of bed around 8am, I started catching up on housework. I've really just playing at catching up on my housework all day. I just can't get excited about it.
And now you know why I say, 'what do I have to write about?' I think I let myself get so exhausted that even my brain is tired!
One thing has been on my mind though. And it has to do with what happened to me this week. I let myself get so caught up in work, I put everything else 2nd. Yes, everything, relationships, health, myself, even my puppy. Now that's just sad! When I was spending that time on Saturday watching the basketball games & hanging out with my family during & after the games, I realized, my life outside of work has to be given more importance than my time at work. That doesn't mean I don't enjoy my work or that I won't do my best. But I think it's time I start setting different priorities!!!
On the way to the little town where my son and his family live, I turned off the radio and had a nice chat with YaHUah. I mean, we just chatted. I haven't done that in ages. It was so nice, that I did it again on the 30 minute drive home.
So, I've spent today piddling around at cleaning house, budgeting & paying some bills, making a menu & grocery list (well, thinking about the menu/grocery list thing anyway, that will come after I get done with this) and thinking about what I would be writing about.
I'm certain I've written about this before, if not, then I should have. But my life needs to be about LOVE, YaHUah's love, my family's & friend's love, (maybe a future love?), and yes even my puppy. My life needs to be about fun and laughter & health. My life needs to be about my Abba's plan for my life, what He wants to do through me & for me!
I don't know think it will be very easy, I'm so used to pouring myself into my work. And I don't want to jeopardize my job or short change the agents I'm responsible for. But I have to find some balance. I have to keep trying to find a closer relationship with YaHUah, my family, my friends, myself. I have to keep trying to find the fun & health & happiness that He desires for me. I just turned 59 a few weeks ago and you'd think I would have all this figured out a long time ago. But some of us just get so busy, so distracted, with *life events*, we forget to take care of ourselves.
My promise to myself, NOT a new years resolution, just a promise to myself, is to find my balance. I think one of the things that will help me do that is to spend a little time everyday doing NOTHING! I don't mean silence or talking to YaHUah on my way to work (which is a good thing,) or listening to the radio or watching tv. I mean NOTHING. Just sit in my apartment, even if for only 10 minutes, to start with, and just do NOTHING. THEN, spend the next 10 minutes, talking to YaHUah, and 10 more minutes listening to Him, listening to His voice.
Sounds like a great plan, we'll see how well I do. I'll let you know. If anyone has any suggestions, please, feel free to comment. I just really want to have peace in my life for a change. Not a manufactured peace but His Peace, Shalom Peace, nothing missing, nothing broken, nothing out of place. When I was driving to the basketball game and I was talking to YaHUah, just chatting as I would with a friend, I believe I heard in reply that all I need to do is seek Him, seek His heart, His peace, a relationship with Him, quiet time with Him, and He will take care of the rest. He will take care of my relationships, my finances, my job, my health, my ......
Which is why my promise to myself is to spend that 30 minutes as I've described.
So, for the rest of this evening, I'm going to make my supper, write out my menu & grocery list. Get my clothes, lunch and bag ready for work tomorrow. Then do nothing for 10 minutes, talk to Him for 10 minutes, and listen to Him for 10 minutes.
I pray each of you reading this will, or perhaps already has, found that Peace that comes from knowing Him and having that intimate relationship with Him.
10 minutes at a time, that's my plan, or should I say His plan, for me to find His Shalom Peace!
AND JUST FOR FUN ..........
I had a lot of fun on Saturday watching 2 of my 8 wonderful grandchildren play basketball in a tournament (their teams both won each of their 2 games, I missed my grandson's first game, but I saw the other 3 games). I saw a lot of friends from the little town where I used to live, that I haven't seen for a long time. Then I got to spend a few more hours with my son & his family at their house. We weren't doing anything special, just visiting, and it was so nice.
I wish all my kids & grandkids lived closer!
Today I slept in and after I finally made it out of bed around 8am, I started catching up on housework. I've really just playing at catching up on my housework all day. I just can't get excited about it.
And now you know why I say, 'what do I have to write about?' I think I let myself get so exhausted that even my brain is tired!
One thing has been on my mind though. And it has to do with what happened to me this week. I let myself get so caught up in work, I put everything else 2nd. Yes, everything, relationships, health, myself, even my puppy. Now that's just sad! When I was spending that time on Saturday watching the basketball games & hanging out with my family during & after the games, I realized, my life outside of work has to be given more importance than my time at work. That doesn't mean I don't enjoy my work or that I won't do my best. But I think it's time I start setting different priorities!!!
On the way to the little town where my son and his family live, I turned off the radio and had a nice chat with YaHUah. I mean, we just chatted. I haven't done that in ages. It was so nice, that I did it again on the 30 minute drive home.
So, I've spent today piddling around at cleaning house, budgeting & paying some bills, making a menu & grocery list (well, thinking about the menu/grocery list thing anyway, that will come after I get done with this) and thinking about what I would be writing about.
I'm certain I've written about this before, if not, then I should have. But my life needs to be about LOVE, YaHUah's love, my family's & friend's love, (maybe a future love?), and yes even my puppy. My life needs to be about fun and laughter & health. My life needs to be about my Abba's plan for my life, what He wants to do through me & for me!
I don't know think it will be very easy, I'm so used to pouring myself into my work. And I don't want to jeopardize my job or short change the agents I'm responsible for. But I have to find some balance. I have to keep trying to find a closer relationship with YaHUah, my family, my friends, myself. I have to keep trying to find the fun & health & happiness that He desires for me. I just turned 59 a few weeks ago and you'd think I would have all this figured out a long time ago. But some of us just get so busy, so distracted, with *life events*, we forget to take care of ourselves.
My promise to myself, NOT a new years resolution, just a promise to myself, is to find my balance. I think one of the things that will help me do that is to spend a little time everyday doing NOTHING! I don't mean silence or talking to YaHUah on my way to work (which is a good thing,) or listening to the radio or watching tv. I mean NOTHING. Just sit in my apartment, even if for only 10 minutes, to start with, and just do NOTHING. THEN, spend the next 10 minutes, talking to YaHUah, and 10 more minutes listening to Him, listening to His voice.
Sounds like a great plan, we'll see how well I do. I'll let you know. If anyone has any suggestions, please, feel free to comment. I just really want to have peace in my life for a change. Not a manufactured peace but His Peace, Shalom Peace, nothing missing, nothing broken, nothing out of place. When I was driving to the basketball game and I was talking to YaHUah, just chatting as I would with a friend, I believe I heard in reply that all I need to do is seek Him, seek His heart, His peace, a relationship with Him, quiet time with Him, and He will take care of the rest. He will take care of my relationships, my finances, my job, my health, my ......
Which is why my promise to myself is to spend that 30 minutes as I've described.
So, for the rest of this evening, I'm going to make my supper, write out my menu & grocery list. Get my clothes, lunch and bag ready for work tomorrow. Then do nothing for 10 minutes, talk to Him for 10 minutes, and listen to Him for 10 minutes.
I pray each of you reading this will, or perhaps already has, found that Peace that comes from knowing Him and having that intimate relationship with Him.
10 minutes at a time, that's my plan, or should I say His plan, for me to find His Shalom Peace!
AND JUST FOR FUN ..........
Tuesday, January 7, 2014
STOP & just 'be'
I was meeting a friend at the hardback cofee cafe tonight (in Hastings) but for whatever reason my charge ran out early on my smartphone, so I had to leave it on the charger. since I got there a few minutes before she did. I ordered my hot chocolate and then found myself with nothing to do......
no emails to check, no text to send, no Facebook posts to like, no Google+ pics to comment on, no YouTube videos to watch, no games to play. all I could do was just sit and wait. what to do? what to do?
I've been so busy over the last few days, I forgot to stop and just "be". so for just a few minutes, I sat and observed the world around me. the first thing I noticed was the voices of the baristas on the other side of the fireplace, I couldn't see them but I could definitely hear them. then there was a young lady doing something with her laptop, a gentleman sitting on the couch reading a book, another young man sitting by the door also doing something with his laptop. I noticed the trash that somebody left on another table, and how quiet our corner of the bookstore was. then I saw a TV in the corner, volume turned down, and all I saw was a darling little girl, 5 or 6 years old, being dressed up and paraded around like a hoochie mama! (DISGUSTING!!)
sadly I didn't want to observe the world around me anymore! I looked away from the TV.
I looked at more of what was on the shelves, the pictures on the wall, and the Cafe around me...
now I just sat. suddenly I realized, I was looking, but I wasn't really thinking, I reacted some, yes, but wasn't really thinking. I mean just think. think about what I want, what I was feeling. not about what I needed to do in the next 5 minutes, or tomorrow, or next week. but really think about.....
then my friend arrived and we started talking, it was a nice visit, we talked about some very serious issues, we griped a little bit about different things, we laughed a little, we shared a lot.
thank you friend, for sharing that time with me, taking time to enjoy our hot chocolate and coffee together.
thank you YAHUAH (God) for showing me, that I sometimes need to stop & disconnect from the world, and just be, just think.
**** I forgot, no tweets to Twitter! ****
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Wednesday, January 1, 2014
HE tapped me on the shoulder, again.
I had a bit of an issue yesterday, really, it's been coming on for several days, maybe longer. Nothing life threatening mind you, but important. I had a sort of a quarrel with a friend, and it made me sad. I am a bit of a loner, and very independent, sometimes perhaps to much so. This friend meant well, offering me advice, though I'd not asked for any advice. I was just talking and venting, but my friend felt the need to offer advice, on more than one occasion. The advice came at me like this "what you need to do is....", "you should pray this way.....", "you should eat this or not eat that", anyway, you get the picture? I like this friend and they meant well, really they did. But because of things that have happened to me in the past, I get VERY defensive whenever someone, anyone, tells me what I should or shouldn't do.
Because I didn't want to hurt my friend's feelings I didn't say any thing. When I didn't take or follow my friends advice, they seemed to get upset and take it as a personal offense. It didn't matter that's not how I meant it. That's how they took it. That made them and me feel even worse. I still didn't say anything.
Then the other day when I was ill, and still not asking for advice mind you, they offered up some advice on what to eat to and do to get better. Unfortunately for both of us, the options offered up were either things i already knew about or one option that was absolutely NOT going to happen. (I'm not fond of jalapeno's except as "poppers" and I am for certain not going to put jalepeno juice in my soup!) No matter how I tried to tell my friend that I knew what to do to take care of myself, they just kept on. I tried to be polite and finally told them I was a mother and grandmother and knew what to do for illness. My friend finally backed off but by then I had hurt their feelings.
WHY am I sharing this here? I do not want to repeat this scenario and I hope to keep others from repeating it either.
I should have been honest at the beginning. That was my fault for not explaining myself, why I am so sensitive to the offering of advice. You see, my ex-husband used to tell me things like "you shouldn't say that", "why do you think that way?", "if you want to..... you should ......", etc etc etc, and it wasn't just the words it was the way he said them. Eventually the words became stronger and were followed by other issues.
That being said, it's not my friends fault what my ex did. And I shouldn't have taken it out on my friend. I've tried to set things right, we both apologized.
And should my friend happen to read this, I hope they will forgive me for speaking of this publically, The same is true of our other friends, who will more possibly read this, please forgive me.
So again, WHY am I sharing this here? Because YaHUaH tapped me on the shoulder, again, and let me know in no uncertain terms, that not everyone is trying to control me, some are just trying to be good friends and be helpful.
So, I'll be talking to my friend again, and this time explain and apologize much better.
Please, don't make my mistake. Please be honest with your friends, be honest with yourself. You might as well, if not, you'll most likely find yourself getting a tap on your shoulder!
Be blessed everyone!
Because I didn't want to hurt my friend's feelings I didn't say any thing. When I didn't take or follow my friends advice, they seemed to get upset and take it as a personal offense. It didn't matter that's not how I meant it. That's how they took it. That made them and me feel even worse. I still didn't say anything.
Then the other day when I was ill, and still not asking for advice mind you, they offered up some advice on what to eat to and do to get better. Unfortunately for both of us, the options offered up were either things i already knew about or one option that was absolutely NOT going to happen. (I'm not fond of jalapeno's except as "poppers" and I am for certain not going to put jalepeno juice in my soup!) No matter how I tried to tell my friend that I knew what to do to take care of myself, they just kept on. I tried to be polite and finally told them I was a mother and grandmother and knew what to do for illness. My friend finally backed off but by then I had hurt their feelings.
WHY am I sharing this here? I do not want to repeat this scenario and I hope to keep others from repeating it either.
I should have been honest at the beginning. That was my fault for not explaining myself, why I am so sensitive to the offering of advice. You see, my ex-husband used to tell me things like "you shouldn't say that", "why do you think that way?", "if you want to..... you should ......", etc etc etc, and it wasn't just the words it was the way he said them. Eventually the words became stronger and were followed by other issues.
That being said, it's not my friends fault what my ex did. And I shouldn't have taken it out on my friend. I've tried to set things right, we both apologized.
And should my friend happen to read this, I hope they will forgive me for speaking of this publically, The same is true of our other friends, who will more possibly read this, please forgive me.
So again, WHY am I sharing this here? Because YaHUaH tapped me on the shoulder, again, and let me know in no uncertain terms, that not everyone is trying to control me, some are just trying to be good friends and be helpful.
So, I'll be talking to my friend again, and this time explain and apologize much better.
Please, don't make my mistake. Please be honest with your friends, be honest with yourself. You might as well, if not, you'll most likely find yourself getting a tap on your shoulder!
Be blessed everyone!
Praying for His Glory to light our paths
Praying for His Glory to light the path He has planned for us, and for His peace, wisdom & favor to walk side by side with us on that path!!
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